I wanted to share this topic with you because I think most of us, if not all of us, have experienced this. I have been having SO many thoughts lately. Even more than usual, which is dangerous. I am a serial over-thinker. It has its pros and cons but I am finally accepting that the cons outweigh the pros by far. But what has been hardest to realize is that most of my disappointment, times when I find myself down, and even heartache stemmed from expectations. Expectations I have placed on myself, stages throughout my life, and even others.
Check out this exert from a friend below:
Kayla Nichols - It feels good to let go. // Let go of the pressure and responsibility to make your life happen. Let go of the expectations you or others carry for who you’re supposed to be or what your life is supposed to look like. Let go of your past experiences and embrace a beautiful future that isn’t defined by them. Let go of the thoughts and feelings that you have to prove yourself, make something of yourself, or be “somebody”. Let it go. Life is too short to get caught up in trying to be an image of who or where you think you’re supposed to be. Give us the real you. Who you are is enough. You are loved and adored. And there is something so beautiful about where you currently are in life, even if you don’t always understand it. You’ll be grateful for it later. Open your eyes. See the beauty and life that’s in front of you for you to experience right now. Don’t miss it.
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Kayla is one of my first best friends from back in the day. Her and I went to middle school and high school together but also were involved in several church groups and activities together as well. She is such a bright light to this world and I would love if you checked out her music and social pages. Here's how you can do that: kaylaenichols(Snapchat); kaylaenichols(Instagram); fromfireofficial(Instagram); Kayla Nichols music(YouTube); Website - www.kaylanichols.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/kaylanicholsmusic
I preached this to myself all my life but I definitely think it is something that happens at age 27... lol Because all of a sudden I am calm and ready to actually accept the greatness that I was destined. Thank you, Jesus. But in all seriousness, it's just one of the things that you may know and tell yourself to do but it feels like I finally gave up fighting it and something took over my mind, body, and soul. And it feels SO good. I look around and want nothing but what I already have (or have in motion). I laugh at the past me and all she did to navigate her way to where I am and wonder why she doesn't realize she's there!
Expectations for things out of our control are a trap. I cannot help the way someone perceives me and my life, my business, my relationships, etc. And I, in turn, have to stop having expectations of others, it has only ever led me to disappointment. Stop trying so hard to be someone you think you need to be, and just BE! Authenticity is the key to success because you were designed like no other. Get to know yourself for those who have not done it yet, and love her/him.
So, I know it seems to be hardest for my generation but let's just live without planning every second of life and I know God will get you to your destination without you even stressing it. Hard work and never giving up is all we need.
I hope that this helps someone like me along their way out there! Leave a comment below if so, or if you have any suggestions I can use to further my journey of self-love and enjoying the moment. Talk soon!
P.S. Expectations of other people in relationships and friendships is a whole other post. I filmed an episode of Champagne Talks for my YT page and it will be up and available this week. Check it out and let me know if you want to discuss further!